This topic doesn't get much discussion but I could use a little help with it. I have definately pushed it with my gf a little this season. She hasn't been to happy with the amount I've fished lately and after 3 years we are definately closed to a turning point in our relationship.

Hoping some of you could share some best practices and maybe even some regrets in regards to how you balance fishing with your relationships.

Not looking for anything too personal. Just some ideas. I'd be particularly curious to know how some of you guys that get close to 100 nights a year pull it off.

-Luds

damn, i thought this was the start of a new hottie thread

Mike it is give and take, I promise to do what ever she needs and she lets me do what I want, (to a point) we go thru the crying game from time to time but she gets over it. she knows what makes me happy and less grumpy. Remember talk it out and make sure you listen to her and try to understand what she feels about it but also remind her your not in a bar or a crack house and it could be alot worse

Wear the pants in your house. lol :lm:

I have been with my wife for 4 years now, 2 of them married. We have an 8 month old daughter. I sit down with her in the spring and show her on the calendar when I'll be fishing. I skip the spring schoolies, and slack off in the summer doldrums, and no winter twinkie holdovers. But when there is a good chance at a hog in the spring and the fall, and there is a good tide she knows I will be fishing. I don't fish 100 nights anymore. Probably more like 50, but I know that my chances at a good fish during those nights is best.

When I get home, if the night sucked or I am dead tired, I don't show it. I am happy to be home, and I let her know that I had a great time fishing.

As my career and other responsibilities have grown, I have come to appreciate my time with my family and my fishing time more. I think I used to just take it all for granted.

Ya really want me to start ><><><????:topic:

tell her "nothing brings us closer together than time apart"

if she buys that, have her give my wife a call and talk her into it. :bl2:

Ya really want me to start ><><><????:topic:

:lurk:

if she does'nt have a hobby- get her one.

stay at home til she hits the hay...with my wife it was 9.30...then I was off like a shot.....then be home before she wake's up... but you better make sure your smellin like fish if she's get's up before you get home.

if she does'nt have a hobby- get her one.

workin on it.

I have two little ones 3 and 8mo. Since our second one is so young I have really taken it easy this year. My wife knows how much fishing means to me and is very supportive. I know what she needs and I support that. What I do is just give her a heads up. If I want to go on Sunday I let her know ahead of time so she is aware.
But to go to places like MV for a week, bribes work well. This year she got a new care with a little help. 2 day trips cost a haircut or a day to herself.

Our only problem is she loves to be out there with me. She loves the leggs and the get togethers. We need to come to a compramise of what we can do together and separate.

My wife usually lets me go whenever I want for the most part from May 1st until Oct. 31st (she actually talked me into that 2nd Cutty weekend). After that I pretty much give her the same courtesy and hang the gear up from Nov. 1st through Apr. 30th....that way I get 6 months and she gets 6 months. seems to work out OK.

But anthing involving the Kids always takes precedence (i.e. Scouts, Dance)

Another trick is to pick a few nights that really aren't conducive to fishing and then SAY that you ARE going fishing......Then, when the day gets here, make like you are gonna skip fishing to spend some time with her, you know, let her know that your thinking of her. :hee:

Have you tried to get her to go fishing with you?

i just say it could be worse.... i could have a strip club hobby! :)

no, in all serisousness thats what she says to me. she realizes fishing is a relativly harmless pass time so i get to do it without too much grief.

Have her call me...... It took me losing house, retirement, changing career, all due to divorce to find striper fishing as my solice.... but I am not in my 20's anymore either Mike. I'll be 50 next year, so I am becoming selfish. You will have to give up almost complete seasons when kids, etc first show up. Assure yourself, and her, you will pay those dues... but right now it's the fall run, so we can talk about this later? Cause I gotta go fish!:jester:

Dude, it also helps to decide to live in a town you would fish on a daily basis. I can have a line wet in five minutes, literally. Unbelievable advantage.

When I met Angie, my fiance', I had been fishing pretty hard for about 2 years and was a full blown addict. I had been through a divorce already and learned 1 important thing from it......that life is short and if you cannot enjoy the things that you are passionate about and the person you are with cannot be supportive of that.....then they are not the one for you. That is not to say that you just go fishing and say to your wife/girlfriend..."screw you I am going whether you like it or not"! As others have said it is give and take. I told Angie one thing when I met her...."I Fish"! "I fish alot and when I want and when it gets to a point where my going fishing is not fun anymore because she is making me miserable about going.....one or the other will be gone and it will never be fishing"! That is a true story and Angie has been wonderful about supporting me in what I love to do. She had never fished a day in her life before she met me and she now loves fishing for anything....she has a 10 pound largemouth to her credit, a 21 pound striper from the surf on a pencil popper that she won Womens Top Surf Division honors with in our fishing club, she has fished at night a few times and yes...even slung eels a few times.....she really enjoys going fishing when ever she can. Try to get your wife/girlfriend involved and if that does not happen then as others have said....it is a give and take. I have been fishing my butt off lately (and all season) and the week after next I am taking Angie away to New Hampshire to a nice Inn that is five stars and the trip is all about her.....fancy dinners and shopping and just basically making her feel good and special....which she is! We do this trip spring and fall and I always spoil Angie rotten and make her feel special and that she matters and that I am supportive of her in what her interests are. We will only be gone 3 nights (good fishing nights by the way) but I will be fishing my a$$ off all this week and when we get back!!!:tooth:

Bottom line is...you are dead a long time! You must enjoy life to the fullest while you can! Try to make compromises when ever possible but if that does not work and you can't find equal ground.....find yourself a "Fishchick" like mine!!:kewl:

My wife's father,brother and uncle are or were fishermen. Hard core. She understands....

God Bless You....

I make plans based on her plans and then end up in the dog house because she changed her plans. I have one small and two mediums, so the mediums go with me now when they can. I'm bad at putting myself last, so there isn't much time to fish.

Try to hit a middle somewhere, but chances are if you post here fish control your brain....

L-48


ya keep fishing hard /& she,ll find her own hobby & it won,t be with your [rod] :hs:

Here's a thought, if you ask her to marry you, you will have all the time you need she will be so busy planning the wedding she even know your not there.

Geeze, Bob, the money for a wedding would buy a heck of a lot of gear! JustKidding, relationships aren't easy.

Have you tried to get her to go fishing with you?

I've taken her out a couple times. She enjoys it but doesn't love it.

L-48


ya keep fishing hard /& she,ll find her own hobby & it won,t be with your [rod] :hs:

nice one. :lasso:

I bet ya GF stops fishing w/ you after you get married, Mike/luds48. ;)

My wife us to fish w/ me a little, but hardly ever wants to go - especially late at nite. :( Now my older sister use to do all kinds of sports & fish w/ her boyfriend and after they got married she stopped doing all those things. It is a pattern!

Your GF needs to understand that it is your way of relaxing/meditation and that she had to accept it. If she can't then you have to decide what is more important.

My wife knew upfront that I liked to do a lot of outdoor activities before we were married and never gave me gried about going out. She had her own hobbies as well. :) Now over time (more aging of body) I don't do a lot of things now just because I kind of grew out of them. When we were married w/out a child it was a lot easier to skip having dinner together so I could go play tennis, hunt or fish. Once you have kids it chances everything! Kids require a lot of your time whether you like it or not. :(

Now a days, I rather get some sleep than pound the sand. Sometimes I just don't get motived to go out on my own - at least if I am heading out with some one else then I know I will go out and not sleep in. :)

Life = it is ALL about balance!

I'm at or very close to being 200 + nights a year:

http://www.tiffany.com/International.aspx



:humpty:

L-48


ya keep fishing hard /& she,ll find her own hobby & it won,t be with your [rod] :hs:

:rotf3:

I brought my wife home a sand dollar today so I am good to the end of the season.

life is short and if you cannot enjoy the things that you are passionate about and the person you are with cannot be supportive of that.....then they are not the one for you.


bingo.

Set one night as "your night to go fishing" each week. That's 1. then be flexible and when there appears to be nothing on the homefront or she has something planned , ask her about going. that's 2 nights a week. then just sneak out one day per week. that's 3 days a week , only one of which she should be pissed about and that's a 67% improvement. What the heck , 67% improvement should please any reasonable woman. :)

any reasonable woman. :)

There in lies the problem.....That's an Oxymoron if ever I heard one.

I've negotiated clearance for 3 nights each week. 2 week nights and one weekend. She also understands if there seem to be big fish around in good numbers that I might get out another night or two. The reverse is true too. If she's got stuff she wants to do then I may have to sacrifice some nights.

dont forget to remind her that the season is almost over- then she can have you all winter.

dont forget to remind her that the season is almost over- then she can have you all winter.


You mean, "I can't wait for the winter so we can spend more time together".:love:

I set one day each weekend to spend with her, regardless of how good the fishing is. If the calls are coming in fast and thick with reports that indicate it's better than usual she relents and let's me go.

Like Capesams, I go after she is tucked away for the night. I always said the best thing about being a striper fishinerman is that most often it's better in the wee hours of darkness. So it works.

She understands, to a point, my addiction. Marriage is a two way street. If it's all one way, for one or the other, it's doomed. Some guys I know do get thier way more than their spouse but those women are weak in my eyes and though they are my friends, I sometimes feel they have a childish attitude and really don't appreciate how good a mate they have. Some women have the old world attitude towards their man which translates into them keeping their mouth shut and getting walked all over. I could not live with a women who does not and will not speak her mind when she wants to for fear it will upset the balance ( or lack of in most cases) in the home. That is stupid way to live.

I actually enjoy doing things with my wife except the mall gig and waiting while she shops but she knows this and would rather go alone anyways as she feels I am getting impatient most times.

Sometimes I over do it and get called in on the carpet and wish I copuld fish all the time like some of the supposed heavy hitters. But if you look deeply into it most of those guys live lonely lives and have taken to drugs or alcohol to make up for the times when they are off the boat or beach and there is no one to care for you or for you to care for, no calls to make sure your alright if a little late or come home to a warm house.

My wife doesn't fish. Has no interest in it. That's okay because I need time with my friends and she understands that. She knows where I am and what I am doing and knows it's better than a lot of other options. On our Honeymoon we came to the Cape for three weeks, during the middle of the second week I left her at the rented cottage and hit the beach overnight. When I arrived back the morning she was there cooking breakfast for me, I knew she was a keeper then.

[QUOTE=Flaptail;424865] I could not live with a women who does not and will not speak her mind when she wants to for fear it will upset the balance ( or lack of in most cases) in the home. [QUOTE]

I couldn't agree more with that comment. I was hoping I would get some creative ideas out of this thread but it's really just confirmed that I need to do a better job of focusing on making her happy. She pretty supportive as it is.

I'm starting to realize that buying her something rather another 5 or so plugs can go a long way. Only child habits are difficult to break.:smash:

What capesams said..
I fish nights almost exclusivly.. much easier on things when she is asleep..

Balance is the key. While my hubby will go fishing with me its not HIS hobby of choice, he'd rather be hunting. So I cherish the times we go fishing together. If I want to go and he doesnt....he has no problem with that and the favor is repaid to him come hunting season. But of course this can only work if neither side "pushes the limits" either. I guess I am lucky since we enjoy spending time with each other too.

Flap // AMEN,AMEN

I had the best of both worlds / On our very first [date] I took her fishing .. she was a keeper forever ;;

& she could fish with the best of them // until we had kids / she was my partner all the way around // it was great having both fish checks going into the same account ;;

SOOOOOOOOOoo / she really understood my addiction ////

& she had balls & when I pushed waaaaaaaaaay past the limit // she blasted me ;;

I,m thankful that I mellowed on the fishing quite awhile ago ==== soooooo I had a 2nd chance to see much more in life / & spend alot more time with the family [especially] her ;;;
I regret more than anything in life /the time I spent on the hunt // the worse thing that could ever happen -------- did ------------------ selling F #$%^&*( fish // all kinds /not just bass // & have too many [Big ] paydays ;;;;

I,m glad I had the good times I did /there would have been many more if I wasn,t blinded by the bass ;;;

I,m so sorry for what I did to her / but at least she knew it before the end ;;;

Guys / don,t be stupid .>>>> there is a whole lot more in life than you, yourself & the striper ;;;

If all the guys that read these post /including the lurkers /
would raise there hand & honestly say what it will do or did to their marriages /I bet it would fill pages ;;;;;

better late than never .........>>>>>>>> sometimes :read:

Flap // If all the guys that read these post /including the lurkers /
would raise there hand & honestly say what it will do or did to their marriages /I bet it would fill pages ;;;;;



Clammer, half probably dont think/realize what its doing to their marriages and some probably dont care

Sometimes its really sad to read what some people will say about their wives here. The worst part is that we CHOOSE our partners or at least choose to stay in a relationship with them so somewhere somebody is kidding themselves. Guys (or girls)if fishing is more important to you than your spouse than you should probably call off the relationship and do THEM a favor so they can find someone that does care for them. ......Oh yeah and that means you can fish whenever you want.

Mike, here is another perspective. I am married to one of the most passionate fisherman out there today, #^&#^&#^&#^&#^&#^&. I also am the sister of the creator of this fine website, John. Bill and I have an 8 year old daughter and the juggling of fishing and family is a struggle. Try to NOT talk about fishing at Thanksgiving with Bill and John together or at a birthday party or First Communion with Clammer also joining us–impossible!!

When our daughter was born, Bill continued to fish hard. Sleepless nights with the baby and sleepless nights fishing really took their toll. He caught his best fish, a 50+ lb. striper when Alisson was only 2 years old. About a year later, he stopped fishing to spend more time as a father/husband. Bill is an “all or nothing” guy. If he couldn’t fish hard core, then he wouldn’t fish at all. Over the next few years I noticed he wasn’t as happy and suggested he should go fishing. I knew how much a part of him it was - but he couldn’t do it halfway. He finally wet a line again in the spring of 2004 and he’s himself again-only better. He tells me that the 2 year break made him appreciate EVEN more, not only the striped bass, but the salt air, the ringing of the bell buoys, the stars in the sky, the quiet stillness out on the rocks when you are the only one out there. He’s truly happy out there and I’d be trying to “cage an animal” if I stopped him.

Have we had our fights over his fishing??? YOU BET!!! Fishing has managed to become part of our family and home. The phone rings off the hook so much with fishing reports, etc. that I don’t answer the phone anymore. I’ve stepped on dead eels when I’m doing laundry (eel tank next to washer/dryer) and pulled fish hooks out of the carpet. The driveway is covered with fish scales and our front porch has Grundens laying across the benches. There are fishing magazines in every room. His truck stinks of fish, his boots stink of fish, heck HE stinks of fish. But I could never take it away from him. He wouldn’t be the same guy without it.

We discuss quite often how much of a strain fishing puts on our marriage. Many marriages have broken up over it and we’ve vowed to be committed to make it work. Sorry for the long post but I promise I’m eventually getting to the point-So, how do you get to fish lots and keep your gf happy? My advice, be open and honest with her and INVITE her. Tell her how important it is to you, how great it makes you feel, how it is so much a part of who you are. Take her with you and get her some gear. Bill fishes conventional so he got me spinning gear. Show her how to cast and watch her fish. It’s no fun just watching someone catch fish. I bet when she lands a fish, she’ll want to go more often and have a greater appreciation of what this is all about. If she has no desire to fish after you've taken her, then hopefully you can devote enough time to her off-season so that she knows fishing is secondary to her.

I fished with Bill before our daughter was born. I fished with him until I was 6 months pregnant and the fear of falling on the rocks kept me home. I’ve fished Chatham with him, fished the rotation at Quonnie, slung eels in Narragansett, and watched pogies get chased by stripers this past June. Now that Alisson is getting older, we’re getting into it more as a family. She said that one of her best days ever was when she went schoolie fishing on Daddy’s boat this past spring. When she grows up and is on her own, I will be hopefully fishing by Bill’s side as much as possible. What’s that expression….If you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em!!

Leslie

Mike, here is another perspective. I am married to one of the most passionate fisherman out there today, #^&#^&#^&#^&#^&#^&. I also am the sister of the creator of this fine website, John. Bill and I have an 8 year old daughter and the juggling of fishing and family is a struggle. Try to NOT talk about fishing at Thanksgiving with Bill and John together or at a birthday party or First Communion with Clammer also joining us–impossible!!

When our daughter was born, Bill continued to fish hard. Sleepless nights with the baby and sleepless nights fishing really took their toll. He caught his best fish, a 50+ lb. striper when Alisson was only 2 years old. About a year later, he stopped fishing to spend more time as a father/husband. Bill is an “all or nothing” guy. If he couldn’t fish hard core, then he wouldn’t fish at all. Over the next few years I noticed he wasn’t as happy and suggested he should go fishing. I knew how much a part of him it was - but he couldn’t do it halfway. He finally wet a line again in the spring of 2004 and he’s himself again-only better. He tells me that the 2 year break made him appreciate EVEN more, not only the striped bass, but the salt air, the ringing of the bell buoys, the stars in the sky, the quiet stillness out on the rocks when you are the only one out there. He’s truly happy out there and I’d be trying to “cage an animal” if I stopped him.

Have we had our fights over his fishing??? YOU BET!!! Fishing has managed to become part of our family and home. The phone rings off the hook so much with fishing reports, etc. that I don’t answer the phone anymore. I’ve stepped on dead eels when I’m doing laundry (eel tank next to washer/dryer) and pulled fish hooks out of the carpet. The driveway is covered with fish scales and our front porch has Grundens laying across the benches. There are fishing magazines in every room. His truck stinks of fish, his boots stink of fish, heck HE stinks of fish. But I could never take it away from him. He wouldn’t be the same guy without it.

We discuss quite often how much of a strain fishing puts on our marriage. Many marriages have broken up over it and we’ve vowed to be committed to make it work. Sorry for the long post but I promise I’m eventually getting to the point-So, how do you get to fish lots and keep your gf happy? My advice, be open and honest with her and INVITE her. Tell her how important it is to you, how great it makes you feel, how it is so much a part of who you are. Take her with you and get her some gear. Bill fishes conventional so he got me spinning gear. Show her how to cast and watch her fish. It’s no fun just watching someone catch fish. I bet when she lands a fish, she’ll want to go more often and have a greater appreciation of what this is all about. If she has no desire to fish after you've taken her, then hopefully you can devote enough time to her off-season so that she knows fishing is secondary to her.

I fished with Bill before our daughter was born. I fished with him until I was 6 months pregnant and the fear of falling on the rocks kept me home. I’ve fished Chatham with him, fished the rotation at Quonnie, slung eels in Narragansett, and watched pogies get chased by stripers this past June. Now that Alisson is getting older, we’re getting into it more as a family. She said that one of her best days ever was when she went schoolie fishing on Daddy’s boat this past spring. When she grows up and is on her own, I will be hopefully fishing by Bill’s side as much as possible. What’s that expression….If you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em!!

Leslie


UH...OH....My wife has posted....Not much to add...exept..I love ya Les:love:

WOW><><

I,m speechless :jump1: :jump1:





P S the salt air ,the stars , the peacefulness , senerity are my lines -works every time :bo:

wow, that was awesome. Thanks Mrs #^&#^&#^&#^&#^&#^&.

I am happier when my wife hooks up and lands a fish than if it were myself. Great read Mrs. Nolan.

Wow that is one of the best posts I have ever read, welcome aboard,

I know my wife feels the same way. it is totally a give take deal. I try to do as much as I can and in turn I go as much as my old bones can take. she is buy my side alot of the times but she doesn't hop rocks at night. and she doesn't fish, she loves nature photography and being outdoors so it all has a way of working out for us.

T=19


I,m also glad When STAR [hooks up]:bshake:

Bill
you have a good woman there and allison too . I am not complaining I have it pretty well too . Its all about fairness and our time to enjoy our daughters and each other and to have me gone out of the picture for a few days . Like when we went to Fla 2 weeks ago . the women wanted to go to the parks and I didnt , so instead of putting up with me and my attitude about parks My wife said " why dont you go to key west and fish for a few days " and I will go to the parks with the girls ( 8 and 12 ) . As long as when I got back to orlando I would take the kids out for a day to give her a break . I almost broke my neck getting to the phone to make reservations . so 3 days in the keys and 4 days hanging with my family worked out great . I got fish and had a great time with the family .

what was this thread about anyway ?

Leslie
Where did this come from? The passion. The honesty. The....the...
I don't know what to say.

Great post all kidding aside.

T=19


I,m also glad When STAR [hooks up]:bshake:

:heybaby:

I am married to one of the most passionate fisherman out there today, #^&#^&#^&#^&#^&#^&. I also am the sister of the creator of this fine website, John.


Somehow, I get the feeling, you know what it is like to be between a rock, and a hard place... ;)...
(Just kidding, guys!)

All kidding aside.. great post!.. and look forward to more!

Its nights like tonight that are really tough. Spending the night at home with the wife is great but knowing that those fish we got into last night are still out there is killing me inside. Especially with the wedding all weekend and knowing that the tides will be all wrong by the time we get back :wall: time to suck it up I guess - unless she falls asleep really early :hihi:

Its nights like tonight that are really tough. Spending the night at home with the wife is great but knowing that those fish we got into last night are still out there is killing me inside. Especially with the wedding all weekend and knowing that the tides will be all wrong by the time we get back :wall: time to suck it up I guess - unless she falls asleep really early :hihi:


Mike, Just let me know where the fish are and I'll keep an eye on them while you are busy this weekend. That way I can give you a report when you get back. :jump1:

I'm always willing to help

Flap // AMEN,AMEN

I had the best of both worlds / On our very first [date] I took her fishing .. she was a keeper forever ;;

& she could fish with the best of them // until we had kids / she was my partner all the way around // it was great having both fish checks going into the same account ;;

SOOOOOOOOOoo / she really understood my addiction ////

& she had balls & when I pushed waaaaaaaaaay past the limit // she blasted me ;;

I,m thankful that I mellowed on the fishing quite awhile ago ==== soooooo I had a 2nd chance to see much more in life / & spend alot more time with the family [especially] her ;;;
I regret more than anything in life /the time I spent on the hunt // the worse thing that could ever happen -------- did ------------------ selling F #$%^&*( fish // all kinds /not just bass // & have too many [Big ] paydays ;;;;

I,m glad I had the good times I did /there would have been many more if I wasn,t blinded by the bass ;;;

I,m so sorry for what I did to her / but at least she knew it before the end ;;;

Guys / don,t be stupid .>>>> there is a whole lot more in life than you, yourself & the striper ;;;

If all the guys that read these post /including the lurkers /
would raise there hand & honestly say what it will do or did to their marriages /I bet it would fill pages ;;;;;

better late than never .........>>>>>>>> sometimes :read:


No one could have said it better Mike, your a good man, a good man. :btu:

Mike, words to live by thanks.

T-19


i just f #$%^&*() say them WTF lives by them :spin:

just finished reading all this....

#^&#^&#^&#^&#^&#^& you be one LUCKY guy.....


Leslie! welcome to S-B ............ you "rock" girl

i am very impressed.

I used to golf three to four times a week, now I just fish. For some reason it doesn't bother my wife as much. But when I golfed, I new she didn't like the sport at all, so I ony golfed when she worked and/or before she got up on Sat. or Sunday (she worked 4-12 then so she slept late). And even though it didn't take time away from us it drove her up a wall. So anyway I made a deal with her. I'll just fish, thats all I'll do, and for the most part it is my entire life outside of work/marriage and she is pretty good with it. That and after twenty five years of marriage she finally found a god damn hobby (she makes and sells jewelry) and she made a couple of very close friends. Lastly let her do whatever she wants. Push into activities with her buddies like you would a shy child, it works.

Hey #^&#^&#^&#^&#^&#^&, ask Leslie if she would consent to her genes being cloned? It to late for me and most of the guys here, but if we could have more Leslies for the next generation that would be cool.:kewl:

if she does'nt have a hobby- get her one.


HA! that's impossible :laughs:

You have to make an agreement... that's what I did and we ALMOST never FIGHT ABOUT IT!

In all seriousness... I told her that during the season I need to be out 4 nights a week... Mon, Wed, Thur, Sat. If the fishing's hot I go more and sacrifice another night later. If the weather sucks or if there's nothing around... don't say "I'm staying home tonight because the weather sucks" and don't sap it up either with the "Aw shucks baby, the fish are jumpin' on shore and all I can think about you buttercup"... just stay home and when the time you usually leaves comes and goes, she'll ask and you can just say "eh.. just felt like staying home tonight... wanna watch a movie?" Mike, I know the allure of single life sometimes seems... well... alluring, but don't let fishing ruin a good thing (that is if it's good)... make the agreement fight through it for a while and the seas will calm down... or they did for me, although at times the storm still rages on....

I'm starting to realize that buying her something rather another 5 or so plugs can go a long way.

Exactly, so I see a lathe and an airbrush under her Christmas tree?!?!?:bl:

I am married 26 years this coming Feb.

She likes Camping, I don't!!
I like fishing , she don't!

So what I did was buya 30' Camper with all the bells and whistles! Central Air, Heat, fridge freeezer, you get the Idea.

What we do is live in Wareham for the summer in the camper, I bring the boat, she is camping and I am fishing, we both get what we want!!

And I made sure that if I have to camp I did it in comfort!!

And when she complains that that the boat cost to much money, I just say, hey it costs $3000 a year to leave your camper in the camp ground a season!!
It doesn't cost me $3000 a season! Well maybe it does, but she doesn't know it! LOL

Bottom line, Never stop her from doing what she wants!! Get her doing something she likes and will leave you alone!

And never never never fall asleep after a all nighter and she wants to talk to you!!!!!!!! Stick tooth picks under your finger nails and jab them if you have to!! Cause when they want to talk you better at least look like you are listening!! Been there done that!! It wasn't pretty!!

It's only a question if your're prepared to entertain all options. My experience has been that people see the writing on the wall and go forward anyway. Her lack of support of your fishing is only going to get worse.

I'm happily married but I would not get married again. I'm not too fond of having to tell someone where I'm going and what I'm doing.

People who gravitate toward surfcasting tend to be loners who don't find their relationships as rewarding as normal people do. There's a little bit of the serial killer in every good fisherman.

For the most part I consider myself extremely lucky. Years ago, one spring morning in 1985 when I was trying to get her to go back to the vineyard again in the fall for the derby, she said I am not going. But thier is no reason for you not to go. Ever since then I gave up golfing and just spent money on fishing. I can't say that Bev never got pissed off at me, but after stopping the once in awhile sojourn to the local watering holes she didn't have anything to bellyache about when it comes to fishing. When you have kids I am sure it is completely different though. I would trade away much if not all of what I have for just one child, but since I don't have any. Just make sure she knows that the only thing your doing is fishing. I know a few guys that used the old line, "honey, the tide is just right tonight, I may not be home till morning", and the guy/s were actually doing plugging of a different sort.

It's only a question if your're prepared to entertain all options. My experience has been that people see the writing on the wall and go forward anyway. Her lack of support of your fishing is only going to get worse.

I'm happily married but I would not get married again. I'm not too fond of having to tell someone where I'm going and what I'm doing.

People who gravitate toward surfcasting tend to be loners who don't find their relationships as rewarding as normal people do. There's a little bit of the serial killer in every good fisherman.


YIKES! That was uplifting.. sounds like a marital problem not a fishing problem

sounded about right to me :rollem: lol

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People who gravitate toward surfcasting tend to be loners who don't find their relationships as rewarding as normal people do. There's a little bit of the serial killer in every good fisherman.

:conf: :rotf2:

It was always rumored you were hard on fishing partners but you didnt need to use him for CHUM! and then wear his face as a hat.... just dont start eating eels with fava beans and chianti! :D

People who gravitate toward surfcasting tend to be loners who don't find their relationships as rewarding as normal people do.

How about that some people go through the motions of life and too few are fortunate to find that holy grail of inner peace and satisfaction that good old fashioned surfcasting can bring :hee: Many people find that wonderful thing that as an individual touches our soul. I find fishing to do that, being on the water, and good commaraderie - they all bring that inner peace. Fishing can compliment the peace and joy that a good relationship brings.

Besides - it's far better than being in the bars :huh: :rocketem:

There's a little bit of the serial killer in every good fisherman. That's classic :tooth:

BTW - Nice post Les :btu: