View Full Version : How Life Can Change in an Instant


RickBomba
06-24-2008, 07:58 PM
So, it's 4PM yesterday, and the TV repair company finally calls me after four weeks of waiting on Best Buy repair work to schedule an appointment for 10 AM Tuesday.
Elated, I call Jess from work (which I've done three times in five years) to tell her about the appointment. I notice on the phone, that she is having a hard time speaking to me...a little jibberish, can't form sentences, finally says "HELP!"
Anyhow, I run into my boss' office (VP of Client Services) and say "Gotta go, Jess is in trouble!" and proceed to drive home as fast as the Avalanche will go (I'm lucky I didn't get pulled over, would've cost me time) from East Boston to Waltham...took me 20 minutes. I run inside, grab Jess (literally) and throw her in the car.
At this point, she is crying and can barely talk to me. She doesn't know where we are, what time it is, what month it is...two thoughts come into mind...stroke and or brain tumor.
Anyhow, I remember that one of my uncle's (a stroke rehab specialist) had told me that Lahey in Burlington was the place to go.
Get to Lahey at 5 pm, tell the triage nurse that Jess is over 30 and on the pill, and can't talk...needless to say she was waiting for a head CT by the time that I finished the paperwork. This was 5:15 PM yesterday.
The CT revealed that Jess had an edema on her left frontal lobe, she was rushed to MRI after being given a clot-buster, and luckilly by now, her parents and brother had joined me.
I spent the next six hours waiting, as my best friend in the world can only say "You...TV" to me (she still had the hutzpah to want to get the F^&*ing TV fixed), and we were forced to leave her for the night.
I wake up today, call Jess' friends, and find one of them who lives by the hospital to go to my apartment and wait for the TV to get fixed, as I figure this is really important to Jess.
I fly to the hospital, just in time to talk to the Neurology team, who say that Jess had thrown a clot, due to the fact that she is over 30 and on the pill (like they say in the commercials). She had suffered a stroke that was effecting her speech, but it appeared that no other areas of the brain were affected.
Another day's worth of invasive tests, heperin shots to the abdomen, and trying to codgle a frustrated person who could think, but could not speak insued. Jess got markedly better, and after a talk with a speech therapist, started to rebound exceptionally well (but only while talking to me). More tests, and about an hour ago, they decided it was time to go home (for Jess). She's still only really talking to me, which in itself is an absolute MIRACLE!!!!!!!!!!!!
I cannot remember the last time that I prayed for something other than fishing (and I really did pray hard), and the prayers were answered in a way that I never thought possible.
Funny, as I was typing this, Jess just walked in and said "Why are you always leaving me" (i left her asleep on the couch for a few minutes to type this).
If it wasn't for a freak call home yesterday, things may have been much worse. I've never been a believer in the old adage "Things always happen for a reason," but something DEFINATELY made me call home yesterday.
Needless to say, I've taken the next week off, and those people that I was planning to see on the weekend at the Cape will have to wait. In fact, a lot of thigs will probably have to wait. We aren't out of the woods yet, but I feel absolutely blessed to have my best friend back in the house, watching the TV (which for wahtever reason is very important right now).
I have had both grandparents survive strokes in the last eight years, and both came out changed people (maybe it was me that came out changed).
Count your blessings everyone, and kiss your favorite person as much as you can, ALL THE TIME!!!! Life can change in an instant!
OK I haven't slept in 24 hours, gotta go!
Later,
Rick:tm:

Van
06-24-2008, 08:07 PM
Wow that is unbelievable and very lucky you made that call.
So glad it didn't turn for the worse.
Thoughts and prayers to both of you and for a full recovery.
V

Fishpart
06-24-2008, 08:11 PM
Prayers Brother...

Squid kids Dad
06-24-2008, 08:25 PM
Hang in there Rick..Prayers on the way for you and Jess

Raider Ronnie
06-24-2008, 08:28 PM
Best wishes Rick.
Hope everything turns out ok !

Saltheart
06-24-2008, 08:33 PM
I hope she has a speedy and complete recovery.

Slingah
06-24-2008, 08:54 PM
prayers sent Rick for a speedy recovery for Jess...
get some sleep....

EricW
06-24-2008, 09:12 PM
That is an incredible story. I wish both of you the best and hope all works out well.

God bless.

Eric

nightfighter
06-24-2008, 09:21 PM
Prayers with you, bro. Call me if you need help, coverage, to vent, what ever you two need.....

The Dad Fisherman
06-24-2008, 09:50 PM
Rick, I'm glad to hear that she is back home and all is on the mend. Thoughts and Prayers......as Ross said, If you need anything just ask

Clueless
06-24-2008, 09:58 PM
I don't know what else to say after reading your story but "wow"... Not much gets to me, but this was very moving.

I wish you both the best and a full and quick recovery for Jess.

RickBomba
06-24-2008, 10:16 PM
Thanks everybody!!!
I'm guessing that I've told at least Ross and Kevin (BTW thanks boys!), but Jess is a trained culinarian, like me. We spent the nigth watching Hell's Kitchen, and the words just keep coming out. Had to leave her for a few (still to tired to sleep), but going to bed now.
It's almost like talking to her helps her finish the sentences, which makes talking so much easier...I do not know what else to say, except for the fact that in 24 hours she went from "stroke patient" to herself again (kind of).
Thanks everybody...time to go to bed!
I am absolutely floored and thank God that I was given the chance to be able to intervene and for those of you who know Jess, I give a hearty thanks!
OK Out,
Rick

Clammer
06-24-2008, 10:32 PM
Rick ;;

turned out good >.but scary >>> now live every day like it maYbe your last & enjoy every moment ya can :;


IMP MIKE

UserRemoved1
06-25-2008, 04:21 AM
Wow Rick I will keep good thoughts coming you guys' way! I hope she's ok man.

nightfighter
06-25-2008, 04:24 AM
I still question her taste in men..........

HESH2
06-25-2008, 05:47 AM
great news on her recovery,scary moments though lucky you called when you did.

Johnny C
06-25-2008, 05:55 AM
Keep positive. A very close friend of mine suffered a similar situation a few years back. 33 yrs old...single guy and bang. Stroke.
He has made a full recovery and is doing great. It is very scary and the speech loss is so frustrating, but it all gets better. Take care.

Nebe
06-25-2008, 06:31 AM
scary story.. glad she rebounded as well as she did..

Rick Ackley
06-25-2008, 06:52 AM
What a story. Wishing for the best.

PaulS
06-25-2008, 06:53 AM
Hope she makes a full recovery and there's no long term impact.

bart
06-25-2008, 07:12 AM
best wishes

Bronko
06-25-2008, 07:21 AM
Best wishes Rick, sounds like things are progressing very well.

She's lucky she has you!

fishsmith
06-25-2008, 07:25 AM
count your lucky stars, you hit the biggest lottery of them all!!

Swimmer
06-25-2008, 08:44 AM
Geez I am glad this story had a happy ending for you and Jess. T & P for continued recovery.

fish4striper
06-25-2008, 08:46 AM
wow,thank god you called... prayers sent for a speedy recovery

Jimbo
06-25-2008, 09:52 AM
So glad to hear Jess is is doing better with time. Thoughts and prayers for a continued and speedy recovery. Your actions or reactions are indeed an inspiration.

Rockport24
06-25-2008, 10:30 AM
Oh man Rick, what an ordeal thoughts and prayers to Jess for a speedy recovery.

Slipknot
06-25-2008, 11:13 AM
You handled that well Rick, thank God it was not worse.
Best wishes for a quick and full recovery for her :btu:
That is scary.

Backbeach Jake
06-25-2008, 11:39 AM
Thank God she's recovering as well and fast as she is. My thoughts and prayers.

The Iceman 6
06-25-2008, 12:16 PM
Rick -

All the best to Jess. Thoughts and prayers sent...

Ice

justplugit
06-25-2008, 01:28 PM
Rick, prayers and thoughts sent for Jesse and you.

God bless you both.

Raven
06-25-2008, 01:47 PM
prayers for a speedy recovery....

soon jess will be out cooking you again
i hope...

i'm glad your a fast driver... :btu:

chris L
06-25-2008, 02:35 PM
I still question her taste in men..........


thats alright she does too . but after this I dont think she will again .
Ricky
glad to hear everything is working out . really messed up how quickly life changes . I know all about it . call me if you need to chat or need anything . 203-623-4151 ( new #) .

Im glad you made that call too brother .

tynan19
06-25-2008, 04:56 PM
Rick, my wife and I wish you guys the best.

Jenn
06-25-2008, 05:01 PM
Rick...best wishes to you and Jess.

After what I have experienced for the last year screw the pill and I will never go back.....told my doctor I was done.

Hooper
06-28-2008, 02:00 PM
Here's wishing a smotth recovery to Jess!

Moses
06-28-2008, 02:42 PM
Best wishes for a full recovery.

And nice job yourself staying calm and making decisions quickly which definitely helped.

fishaholic18
06-28-2008, 08:12 PM
God was with you on that one Rick, glad she'll be ok...

JohnR
06-29-2008, 09:08 AM
Thank God she is getting better Rick!

Send her a hello and get well from me please :btu:

MotoXcowboy
06-30-2008, 01:39 AM
glad to hear things are getting better for you and jess. reminded me of someone i knew. best wishes with recovery. like mike said, live everyday like its your last. sometimes I forget how things can happen so fast like that with family/friends. thanks for sharing your story.

John E
07-01-2008, 03:21 PM
Rick,

I am speechless. Thankfully everything is working out and Jess is doing great.

Thom
07-10-2008, 11:24 AM
I hear you Mike my Dad had a stroke almost ten years ago lost his speach for a bit but it took longer for him to be able to move his arm. The first time I saw him lift it after the stroke it all most brought me to my knees knowing that he would be able to cloth and wash himself with little help if any at all. He had a great recovery and is doing well. I will keep you in my prayers ThomT

afterhours
07-11-2008, 05:03 PM
wow- scary...so glad jess is ok!! glad you reconized the signs and acted fast- God bless..

MikeTLive
07-26-2008, 05:25 PM
just read this.
it's been a month, how's she doing?


my wife - also over 30 - has had three incidents in as many months (that I know about) where for about 20 minutes she "gets foggy" cant stand, cant read, cant write, cant remember things, cant talk.

been to the doc and they tell her it's an inner ear infection.
Yeah, right.

---
when she was 19 or so she had chest pains so bad she couldn't breathe.
finally hit so bad I called 911 for an ambulance.
what else is a 17yr old to do?
ER docs told her it was in her mind!!
that it was stress and she should see a psych!

fast forward a few months and its finally diagnosed as gallstones and that those pains were caused by blockage and that it was her system shutting down. if they hadn't cleared on their own that would have been it.
---

Now, after reading your post I am taking no more chances.
even a hint of an issue and she is going straight to the ER.
no questions

RickBomba
07-27-2008, 03:44 PM
Mike,
She's doing very well...still going to speech therapy 3 times a week. She went back to work last Tuesday, so things are returning to "normal."
Jess got a green light from her PCP last week, and has another followup with the Neurology team at Leahey, then she's pretty much good to go.
I hear ya on the ER thing...coming from a family full of doctors, I pretty much downplay serious problems...glad I didn't this time!
Later,
Rick