View Full Version : Van's Mother passed away a week ago!!!


Fisherwoman
02-16-2011, 05:38 PM
Not sure how many people know that Van's Mom passed away a week ago saturday night, just thought I would post this as he is having a very hard time as he took care of his Mom.

I know our fellow fisherman's support would mean a lot to him.

Hang in there Van, We will be praying for you and your family

BigFish
02-16-2011, 05:43 PM
Thats terrible Jules. I know Van was a great son to his Mom. Van our deepest condolences to you and your family for your loss.

basswipe
02-16-2011, 05:55 PM
I always have such a hard time when I hear that someones mother has died.

My condolences Van.

FishermanTim
02-16-2011, 06:06 PM
The loss of ANY family member is hard, particularly if it's the first time it happens.
It doesn't get easier as you get older, but one consolation is that you had time to develop deeper relationships and create many, many happy memories. That can help you in these times of need.

Our thoughts and prayers go with you.

tattoobob
02-16-2011, 06:09 PM
Sorry for your Loss Van

animal
02-16-2011, 07:11 PM
Very sorry to hear it.

JohnR
02-16-2011, 07:41 PM
Very sorry to hear this Van - T&P bud.

BigBo
02-16-2011, 07:48 PM
Very sorry for your loss Van.

Rob Rockcrawler
02-16-2011, 08:02 PM
Sorry to hear bout your loss Van

Clammer
02-16-2011, 08:39 PM
Van
sorry for your loss my P & T are with you & your family ay this time ;

Slingah
02-16-2011, 09:57 PM
Sorry for your loss Van. I'm right with you just lost my mother as well. Tough stuff I know. God bless
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Slipknot
02-16-2011, 10:06 PM
Very sorry to hear this
Van you have our condolences

MAKAI
02-16-2011, 10:15 PM
So very very sorry.

DMenace
02-17-2011, 12:34 AM
Van, I'm sorry for your loss. You and yours are in my family's prayers.

Raider Ronnie
02-17-2011, 05:39 AM
Very sorry for your loss Van.

Raven
02-17-2011, 05:40 AM
that you've Lost your MUM

your in my thoughts
My Sincere condolences to you and Family

Mr. Sandman
02-17-2011, 05:44 AM
saddened to hear this Van, my sympathies to you and your family...

missing link
02-17-2011, 07:27 AM
Sorry for your loss ,Your in the Links thoughts & prayers .
ml

afterhours
02-17-2011, 07:37 AM
deepest condolences...

robc22
02-17-2011, 07:59 AM
I take care of my elderly mom....have for years.....Van you may not like it now but now you get your life back......good luck in the future........

InTheHole
02-17-2011, 08:58 AM
Sorry for your loss, a very tough thing to loose a parent

Saltheart
02-17-2011, 11:28 AM
Sorry for your loss Van.

ecduzitgood
02-17-2011, 11:36 AM
I am sorry for your loss.

Got Stripers
02-17-2011, 12:10 PM
Van,

Sorry for your loss, you are in my thoughts.

Mike P
02-17-2011, 02:06 PM
Van, you have my deep and sincere condolences. No matter how old she was, and how long you had here with you, it's always a sad time when they leave us.

Treasure her memory, celebrate her life, but yes---mourn her passing. Shed a tear. It's helpful. Grief is an expression of how much they meant to us. It hasn't been that long since I had to bury my mom.

tynan19
02-17-2011, 02:38 PM
We send our condolences Van!

vineyardblues
02-17-2011, 03:15 PM
Sorry for your Loss Van
T&P sent to you and yours

VB

jimmy z
02-17-2011, 07:29 PM
I am sorry to hear of the passing of your mom. My condolences to you and your family at this time of sorrow. I will keep you all in my prayers! God be with you all!

justplugit
02-17-2011, 08:24 PM
Sorry to hear of your loss,Van.
Thoughts and prayers sent for peace and strenght for
you and your family.

Van
02-18-2011, 08:40 AM
To all:

Thank you very much for the thoughts and prayers, they are greatly appreciated. She was quite a lady and although it was hard for all of us with her passing it was especially tough on me as I was there for her every day as her health rapidly failed for the past two years. In the end we did celebrate her life. I will tell you a bit about this 90 year old wonder.

She was born and lived in Istanbul (I am first generation US). She met my father and they married in the "old country" then moved to the US in 1952. My father was previsouly in this country and immigrated through Ellis Island like many thousands of others. When they settled in the US they had nothing. But through hard work, my father raised enough money to start a small restaurant. They prospered from there and eventually purchased the old Howard Johnsons on Wollaston Beach. They converted it to the Clam Box (which it is still). They worked hard for many years, my sister and I were still quite young. Several years later they sold the business to family.

In 1987, they traveled to Greece to attend the wedding of my cousin. On the wedding day, my father suffered a heart attack and was gone. That was extremely hard on us. Weeks later, he was brought back to the US and we had a proper ceremony.

Now alone and bored, Mom decided to attend Quincy College (and it was free for seniors). She graduated a few years later but was not done yet. She then attended UMass Boston (again free for seniors) and earned her Suma-cum-lauda bachelors degree in French in 2000. At age 80 !!!! She even made the local newpaper. We had a huge graduation party for her. Other than her grandchildren (my two), it was the highlight of her life. I kept kidding her that now that she got her degree "when is she going to get a JOB" !!!! Always good for a few laughs. In the next several years, her health began to fail and by 2005 she could not really get around anymore with out a walker. I did everything I could to allow her to stay at home. By 2008 she was pretty much house bound and very depressed. I constantly had home health providers coming and going. At this point. as with many elderly, they are ready to "go". That what she would say all the time ! After the holidays this year, she had a vertebrae fracture due to osteoporosis. She had sugery in January then rehab. But she was not doing well. We think she was giving up. In rehab around the first of February, she developed pneumonia and went to the hospital. It was just too much for her body to handle. Three days later she was gone.

She was a wonderful lady and made many many friends along the way. Even at 90, she was making friends and people came to visit her all the time. She was lucky to have kept her wits about her at that advanced age. She was still pretty sharp all the way to the end.

She will be missed, but is now in a better place, with my Dad, her mother and her beloved brothers.

I hope you enjoyed a brief history of her life, it was tough to write.
Thanks again for all your kind words.
Van

BigBo
02-18-2011, 12:01 PM
Thanks for sharing that with us Van.

RIJIMMY
02-18-2011, 12:18 PM
great story and thanks for sharing. all we really leave behind in this life are the impressions and memories we leave on others after we're gone. She sounds like a great person and you are a great son. I am sorry for your loss.