You have to make an agreement... that's what I did and we ALMOST never FIGHT ABOUT IT!

In all seriousness... I told her that during the season I need to be out 4 nights a week... Mon, Wed, Thur, Sat. If the fishing's hot I go more and sacrifice another night later. If the weather sucks or if there's nothing around... don't say "I'm staying home tonight because the weather sucks" and don't sap it up either with the "Aw shucks baby, the fish are jumpin' on shore and all I can think about you buttercup"... just stay home and when the time you usually leaves comes and goes, she'll ask and you can just say "eh.. just felt like staying home tonight... wanna watch a movie?" Mike, I know the allure of single life sometimes seems... well... alluring, but don't let fishing ruin a good thing (that is if it's good)... make the agreement fight through it for a while and the seas will calm down... or they did for me, although at times the storm still rages on....

Exactly, so I see a lathe and an airbrush under her Christmas tree?!?!?:bl:

I am married 26 years this coming Feb.

She likes Camping, I don't!!
I like fishing , she don't!

So what I did was buya 30' Camper with all the bells and whistles! Central Air, Heat, fridge freeezer, you get the Idea.

What we do is live in Wareham for the summer in the camper, I bring the boat, she is camping and I am fishing, we both get what we want!!

And I made sure that if I have to camp I did it in comfort!!

And when she complains that that the boat cost to much money, I just say, hey it costs $3000 a year to leave your camper in the camp ground a season!!
It doesn't cost me $3000 a season! Well maybe it does, but she doesn't know it! LOL

Bottom line, Never stop her from doing what she wants!! Get her doing something she likes and will leave you alone!

And never never never fall asleep after a all nighter and she wants to talk to you!!!!!!!! Stick tooth picks under your finger nails and jab them if you have to!! Cause when they want to talk you better at least look like you are listening!! Been there done that!! It wasn't pretty!!

It's only a question if your're prepared to entertain all options. My experience has been that people see the writing on the wall and go forward anyway. Her lack of support of your fishing is only going to get worse.

I'm happily married but I would not get married again. I'm not too fond of having to tell someone where I'm going and what I'm doing.

People who gravitate toward surfcasting tend to be loners who don't find their relationships as rewarding as normal people do. There's a little bit of the serial killer in every good fisherman.

the wife
 

For the most part I consider myself extremely lucky. Years ago, one spring morning in 1985 when I was trying to get her to go back to the vineyard again in the fall for the derby, she said I am not going. But thier is no reason for you not to go. Ever since then I gave up golfing and just spent money on fishing. I can't say that Bev never got pissed off at me, but after stopping the once in awhile sojourn to the local watering holes she didn't have anything to bellyache about when it comes to fishing. When you have kids I am sure it is completely different though. I would trade away much if not all of what I have for just one child, but since I don't have any. Just make sure she knows that the only thing your doing is fishing. I know a few guys that used the old line, "honey, the tide is just right tonight, I may not be home till morning", and the guy/s were actually doing plugging of a different sort.

YIKES! That was uplifting.. sounds like a marital problem not a fishing problem

sounded about right to me :rollem: lol

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It was always rumored you were hard on fishing partners but you didnt need to use him for CHUM! and then wear his face as a hat.... just dont start eating eels with fava beans and chianti! :D

How about that some people go through the motions of life and too few are fortunate to find that holy grail of inner peace and satisfaction that good old fashioned surfcasting can bring :hee: Many people find that wonderful thing that as an individual touches our soul. I find fishing to do that, being on the water, and good commaraderie - they all bring that inner peace. Fishing can compliment the peace and joy that a good relationship brings.

Besides - it's far better than being in the bars :huh: :rocketem:

That's classic :tooth:

BTW - Nice post Les :btu: