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I'll respond in all seriousness:
You need to make her feel like you think she holds a higher place than fishing. Make sure she feels loved and you should be good to go. I feel like this naturally leads to fishing less hardcore, but I find it worth it when we do other things together. If you don't do things together when you aren't fishing (sitting around and watching TV doesn't count) then she is going to constantly think in the back of her head, "He puts all the EFFORT into fishing, and just takes me for granted." Its a tough balance, because fish are trying NOT to spend time with you, she is doing the opposite, so you naturally concentrate on preparing for the fish more than the woman.
At the same time you need to establish early the line between the time you spend doing whatever you need to in your spare time and the time you spend with her. Even in a marriage situation you need "you" time, and making that clear in a respectful manner is important.
Sarah sat me down a couple years into our dating relationship and read me the riot act, told me I was obsessed, etc. I thought about it for a couple days and realized she was right... and I do a much better job of balancing things than I used to.
"Finding the right woman" is great advice, but even the best one won't tolerate feeling like a second wheel to a hobby, unless its pulling in big $$.
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