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This is a great first step.
By reaching out to other people who share at least one thing in common with you, ....you can be sure they'll be pulling and praying for you. Being a part of this small community has that wonderful perk as these guys and gals don't hold back on offering support.
As men, we sometimes shut every one out because of our machismo. Most men do not want sympathy, they'll never ask...and toughen up when it comes their way.
When we get shaken up, we need to slowly exhale and ease out our pain. Very few men can keep it bottled up their entire life...and those men are normally those miserable, never happy types...others that try, explode at one point or another...lashing out at loved ones, or taking it out on themselves in one way or another.
Be strong, find Faith in your Creator. Pray that He understood her hurt, forgave and welcomed your angel with open arms. Look friends and family in the face when they talk to you....tell them "no", you're not ok. You need them, you need their company, their support. Share some of your memories of Lori with them...explain how much of your life she was and how much of a void was left behind. The ones that truly care and love you will help by trying to fill those voids until the time is ready, IT'S IMPORTANT TO ACCEPT THAT HELP. Simply having someone to talk to, regardless of the conversation will help heal the hurt.
Oddly enough, as most have said...Time is an incredible healer. Although you'll never forget her, it will be easier to move forward as weeks turn into months and so on.
It's very important to not spend much time alone during this period. Winter can be tough, never mind the holidays..., join a gym...hit the weights to release tension. Ride the treadmill and force yourself to start a conversation with someone.
It's important to not sit idle by yourself. You will only drive yourself deeper into depression.
I will pray that you find strength in the life that you still have ahead of you. Remember the example you need to set for those watching you (your friends, your family...your younger generations). Show them strength, show them resilience....you can survive this.
God - Speed to you -
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