E that sucks but I understand what your up against. I had two two years apart and did not fish for weeks on end when they were little. No babysitters or daycare. Wife and I would have none of that, one of us was always with them. She went out the door to work when I came in and vice-a versa. It sucked but I think the kids are better for our sacrifices. ( It didn't help when my buddies came by to show me fish)
Kudos to you
for being a good Dad.