Bob - ya just need to vent. I reared 4 kids . Three girls and one boy. Karl and others hit it right on the head. It's better to sacrifice and feed em now, rather than having them running around and getting into drugs. God knows there is enough stuff for them to get into. As far as getting a teenager to do anything around the house - forgedaboudit. Numbskull is so right - get that book and read it. It will save you and your daughters relationship.
Your daughter has wheels now - that makes the relationship even more important. Man I remember when my kids started driving. I was a wreck every night until they were in the house. Later I found that it was because I really loved them and all the nuances didn't amount ot a hill of beans.
