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Your daughter is truly a victim here. He's an abusive A-hole that is trying to (if he isn't already doing so) control her.
When she starts defending ANY of his behavior, it's a sign that she is accepting the behavior as "normal" and needs to see a domestic abuse counselor to be enlightened as to what's going on.
Complaining that you called the police, particularly when HE damaged YOUR property, sounds like she wants to take him back.
BIG MISTAKE!!!!!
As for the A-hole (hopefully EX) boyfriend), pursue this as far as the law will allow. If this hasn't been an ongoing problem with them, it may help to correct his issues as well.
The monitary aspect is important, but the health and well-being of the daughter is of paramount importance. Remember, most victims of domestic abuse tend to radiate towards that type of negative behavior BECAUSE of the repeated conditioning by the abuser.
As for damages: Go after HIM and if he can't/won't pay, then go afetr his parents (provided he still lives at home).
If the daughter, after all is said and done, doesn't dump this jerk over all the objections and rationalizations given by those that care about her, then make her pay for the damage as well.
She not a "kid" anymore, and she will need to take responsibility for her well-being and her actions.
Unfortunately, "men" like this seldom "get the hint" when confronted with a restraining order, protected relatives or even the law.
Let's hope that he is an exception!
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