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Originally Posted by mrstriper
Hi,
after having lost my dad this early August...I can tell you that we process events as we go...meaning certain things will trigger and cause either a joyful memory or a painful or troubling one...
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They can and will happen months, even years, afterwards.
My dad passed away in November of 1981. My daughter was born on May 17, 1990. I thought his death was behind me. A month or so after she was born, it was Father's Day. Grief over his death hit me like a brick, as it was the first time that Father's Day mattered since he passed away.
My mom lived to a ripe old age of 91. She finally passed away last January (2011). We grieved, but having her for 91 years and celebrating a birthday days before her death eased the pain. Then, in November, our church had an All Saints Day service for people who had died during the year. I gave the pastor her name to be read aloud. As they read each name, they rang the church's bell once. When they got to her name, I lost it. It was that darn bell.
Treasure these moments when they happen. Let the emotions flow. Don't fight them. It's not unmanly to cry. They live on in our hearts.