Relationship Strain/Failure

[Grampa Greg]

In recently getting my sorry ass dumped I felt compelled to create a post on relationships and fishing. Considering the amount of time, energy, danger and lack of sleep that is inherent with what we do........


1. How do you guys successfully or unsuccessfully manage having a wife, wife and kids or a girlfriend while still being an active fisherman?

2. Have you had many failed relationships until you found the one that can put up with you and your obsession? What was the difference, You changing for her OR was she just that understanding....?

3. What are the frequent complaints you get/got from your significant other?

4. Why are we so willing to push the envelope to the point of strain or failure with our relationships? It's just a stupid fish right?


For me and my recent situation, my ex felt that she was putting so much more effort into the relationship than I was. She was right. She was, granted I was very clear about how much I love fishing in the Spring and Fall....When I reminded her of that condition she told me I fished all summer long with no break between Spring and Fall. "We had a late run this Spring" was my only reply. I tried to explain to her that I do care about her and that it will get better as I became a smarter fisherman and when that occurs I would not have to put as much time in. She wasn't willing to wait the unknown amount of time.

I would hear things like "Can we take a real vacation for once. Can you just give up one weekend for us? God I hope you get your 50 soon so we can spend some time together. You always put fishing before me"...and the list goes on and on.

I'm not sure what my drive is. I know I have goals and I know I have to put time in to attain them. Why I have ruined relationships is not only because of fishing but it plays a part in a quite a few. I am interested in hearing your stories and explanations.

GG