What would you do?

[Jimbo]

You guys are always good for some sound advice. This happened yesterday.
Get a call from my wife (works in Delaware) yesterday. Daughter Hilary (20) and boyfriend have an argument in our driveway and she tells him to leave. Goes inside, locks the door from the garage into the house, dead bolts it. He decides he's not done , blasts through the door splintering out a huge chunk of the frame and trim. She hears him coming in and goes and locks herself in her bathroom. He comes through that door also. There's a hole in the door where he kicked it. We don't know what happened next, but she's ok. He finally leaves, she calms down enough to call mom who calls me. I take 5 to digest all this and call the police for advice. I tell them I'm just calling to see how I can get the incident reported and on file somewhere so I can collect for damages and repair. I figure this is the icing on the cake, this always rocky relationship is over if I have to incapacitate the two of them. I don't necessarily want him arrested or even plan to press any charges, I just want damages and repair covered and move on with life. Police ask who the guy is and when I tell her she knows his address and description off the top of her head. Police say they want to go make sure Hilary is OK and see damage to the house. I call Hilary and let her know. Police show up, write up a report calling it "Domestic Violence" and Hilary signs it. Then they say they're off to arrest the boyfriend. I guess they saw enough to make that decision. Police arrest the boyfriend during a family get together for a sister's graduation. Now everyone's blaming (and some threatening) Hilary. Hilary is pissed at me for calling the police. Boyfriend's family and friends can't understand why I didn't contact them instead of the police to "work things out". WTF! He breaks into and does considerable damage to MY house, attacks my daughter and what??? expects we're going to shake hands and be best buds? How many Facebook and email threats does it take before I get the police involved again?