Something is in my AOL email address file

[Swimmer]

In the last couple of years I have received, from JR at least once and just in the last couple of weeks from #^&#^&#^&#^&#^&#^&#^&#^&#^&#^&#^&, messages saying that I may have a virus of some sorts. I have tried Norton, Prevyx, Maleware, and now Cyberdefender to no avail.

I keep getting returned mail that I never sent. These are the messages that #^&#^&#^&#^&#^&#^&#^&#^&#^&#^&#^& put me on block for. And the reason I keep getting the returned mail is because other peoples servers wont allow the messages to penetrate their firewalls. I deleted AOL ad reinstalled it, but it still is occuring. I just set my mail on a setting that allows only AOL mail trough to my computor.

How do I attack this cookie or trojan or whatever it is and get it out of my computor? Any help will be greatly appreciated.