Is it legal.......

[Flaptail]

She attends college in Boston, he in Cambridge (guess where), he had an apartment of his own while at the Big H which he had a lease on until Spetember 1st of this year. My oldest daughter is sub-letting from him while she works her summer internship doing media production for the BU School of Law.

He left Thursday to spend the summer on Nantucket ( a good thing) and won't be back until end of August, a surprise and welcome releif to me and Mom. My daughter is going over to spend the 4th w/ him and his friends and since his departure for ACK has taken on a second summer job at an Inn in town besides her job at MBL in the Hole.

So I am hoping he finds another summer love over there and my kid finds out and dumps him. I did find out he has taken a lease on an apt with two other guys from his school, that's good but the bad news is that it is in the Fenway and that's where my kids school is. But I did warn him that he needs to let her concentrate on school this year or I would hold him personally responsible ( wack wack).

We will see.

[Picaroon]

Let him use you're car then report it stolen...

[BW from AZ]

My daughters boyfriend just asked for permission to marry my only girl. What can you really say. told him make her your best friend and you have my blessing, that said i asked him if he knew about waking the bear in the morning and he said yes he understood. she is a grizzly for the first hour in the morning. no deposit no return

[Nebe]

Flap, as I said... panties and an open condom wrapper...

so long dirt bag... of course it could backfire and Mrs Flap may think you were up to no good...

remember, kids learn by making mistakes. dont be too controlling.

[BillM]

When my cousin D hit her teens my uncle got a knife collection. He'd sit out on the porch sharpening these big freaky knives while the boys came and went...nice n sharp! Made him feel better : )

[Van]

Flap, I feel your pain. I have a similar issue with my daughter. She is 22 now, and was steady with this guy since her senior year in HS. Well she had enough and broke it off about 1-1/2 years ago. He never stopped calling her, bothering her and all that crap. She moved to the midwest for work and has been there about a year now. He still calls her (usually at 2 in the morning with a snoot full), telling her he loves her and is coming out there to "find" her. Now I fear for her safety. I called the local police dept. as he still lives in my city. They blew me off and siad she would have to get a restraining order from the city where she now lives and that police dept would contact our poolice dept. I asked the officer if a "friendly" call from an officer could be made to him with just a gentle warning that if he does not stop harrasing her, she/we will take the next step. They can't/won't do that either. He is not really a bad kid and I don't want to see him have a record. He is just mixed up. But if does not stop...........

I have blocked his cell number and text messaging to her phone and his home and work numbers too. But he just uses a different phone to call her. At 2 in the morning, she just picks it up without thinking but hangs up quickly.

I feel like calling him myself since the cops won't and having a talk with him, but I'm not sure that would be a positive thing. He seems a bit unstable lately. I have a friend that has quite an arsenal and he has offered to _______ the ____out of him, but......NO NO...that is a real bad idea.

Maybe all us fathers can get together, form a gang, make up a list, go town to town and carry out a mass beating !!!!! At least I would feel better......

Fathers for Justice or
Pizzed of Dads..some catchy name would be good......

[whiplash]

I have an 18 yr old son who has dated the same girl since freshman year and now that he heading off to college, Mass Maritime only 20 miles away, she is digging in the claws. He was looking at Maine Maritime and several other schools USCG Academy and I know the wench got him to change his mind . I know he's pu__y whiped . I just hope she doesn't do something stupid ( he claims he's wrapping the carrot) to rope him in. And my wife wonders why I drink.

[FishermanTim]

Hey Van, I would have her go through the restraining order process, just so there is a record of his actions.
If he's calling repeatedly at 2 am, that's harrassment/stalking and should be dealt with accordingly. Unfortunately this guy is a loser, and if he's still fixated on her AFTER 2 1/2 years, then he has become obsessed with her, and he just may do something rash to justify his twisted emotions.
Here's my personal experience from years ago:
I have a cousin that stalked his first girlfriend after the split (he was a violent drunk) and it took years for him to get the message. She had a number of friends who would "escort" her home because she knew he would be waiting for her near her home. He wanted to talk to her, and claimed he still loved her, but it always ended with him starting to turn violent. (I witnessed one such event and interjected my fist into his stomach to stop it.)
I would keep in touch with your daughter and find out if he is still "harrassing" her over the phone, and try and keep tabs on the guy so that should he attempt anything outrageous you can nip it in the bud.
Good luck!

[Flaptail]

Now that daughter number II's boyfriend is on Nantucket I keep repeating the Olde Cape Cod Father's maxim:

"If you can dance with the captain never dance with the mate!"

[Joe]

Originally Posted by Flaptail

Now that daughter number II's boyfriend is on Nantucket I keep repeating the Olde Cape Cod Father's maxim:

"If you can dance with the captain never dance with the mate!"

That kind of sound's funny coming from a guy.