A not so merry xmass

[Got Stripers]

Some holiday's are ones you will never forget, others are ones you hope to never live through again, I've experienced both personally. My significant other had quite the morning. First she learned her 90 year old mother was escorted back inside her home by police early in the morning, which was l#^&#^&#^&#^&#^&g as bare feet and a bathrobe are going to keep you warm long. Dementia has escalated in a major way in just the past few weeks and now she needs to place her to insure her safety.

The next call from her sister was to pass on the bad news she was given 4 months to live after battling cancer for a decade, needless to say Peg isn't having a good day and likely this will not be a Merry Xmass this year. Hug those you love and as my buddy Clammer is so fond of saying, be grateful for what you have.

[Hookedagain]

Sorry about your unfortunate news on both fronts, believe in the power of prayer. Thoughts and prayers from our family to yours.

[Mike P]

So sorry to hear about this, Bob.

[vineyardblues]

God bless. Positive thoughts
Live every day !
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[Slipknot]

So sorry to hear this Bob,
my thoughts are with Peg, you and her family

[bart]

Basically dealing with the same issues on my end. Been a weird, tough year for a lot of people. Thank God for my niece being born (even she gave us a scare). Thoughts and prayers for you and your family. Wishing you peace. Dementia is complicated, frustrating, and heartbreaking. Cancer is a #^&#^&#^&#^&ing bitch.
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[Clammer]

bOB, it sucks at anytime but this holiday makes it all that more difficult ..........all you can do is be by her side & deal with the downs .not many ups right now .be there for her & say to yourself ........ should I this or that .remember that whatever your thinking either her mother or sister but more importantly her .......... do it now / so ya won,t have any shudda.s ............I should have said/done that >>.

Take care my good friend I will be thinking of you both ....................... this time of year all I do is think & IT SUCKS ><><

[Guppy]

Geees, Bob so sorry to hear this. Chin up and it's my guess they are comforted knowing you're there for them.... T&P's

[PaulS]

Sorry to hear that sad news on two fronts.
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[Nebe]

So sorry to hear this.

[Fishpart]

Bob, Sad news, Wishing you the Best.
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[JohnR]

Sorry to hear Bob, the balance to all the Good we enjoy in life is the pain and hardship we endure with and for others

[afterhours]

Sorry to hear this, being there for Peg and family is huge. When things get tough family is of utmost importance.

[5/0]

I'm sorry to hear what your are going through, it is a rocky road to travel but there will be a silver lining that will give you comfort.

Best wishes Buddy.
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[5/0]

I'm sorry to hear what your are going through, it is a rocky road to travel but there will be a silver lining that will give you comfort.

Best wishes Buddy.
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[chris L]

Sorry to hear Bob
My thoughts are with you and Peg and your families . Its a tough thing to have happen especially this time of year .

Clammer nailed it

[nightfighter]

Sorry to hear this Bob. We are also dealing with the downward spiral of dementia. I am health care proxy for my 92 yo mother who has been in a locked dementia unit for two years. Three meetings with staff and medical this past weeks as she is now more agitated and a safety risk to herself and staff. Tough decisions as to medication.... She is in a good place (physically), but she would not have been able to get in there unless she was previously in their independent living.
As for your SIL, please tell her to live every day, today. Screw the end game calendar the docs gave her. I have three friends living more than a year after the time the docs gave them.....

This does all lead to how we view how we should want to live out our days. I told the better half today that should I be diagnosed with dementia, there is no way I would want to let it progress as long as we have let it go with my mother. And I want to have a plan understood as to how, and when I would want to end it, legally, without incriminating her, if I need assistance in doing so...... Tough subjects indeed.
Wishing you well, and looking forward to living life tomorrow to the best of our abilities.

[Got Stripers]

We picked up her mother that same day and brought her back to Plymouth, but after a rough night, we brought her to the hospital yesterday. Lot's out of wack chemically and then they found a tumor in her throat, which is sadly ironic in that her sister is dying from esophageal cancer. Peg's mom never smoked or drank. Looks like a couple days of evaluation and then some hard decisions.

I watched my mother die from two different cancers and my father from Alzheimer's; then his brother from the same thing. My father's wasn't as devastating a case as his brothers, as he picked it up late after already dealing with a quad bypass. I watched my Aunt for 5 years talk to her husband who had to be craned out of bed, fed like an infant, while he rarely opened his eyes and he was never able to say a word. Peg has already promised me, that if I go the same route it's off to VT to change residences, so I can go with some semblance of dignity.

[wdmso]

Sorry to hear the sad news

[Swimmer]

Praying for your entire family

[JLH]

Sorry to hear of the struggles your family in facing this holiday season. Wish you all the best!

[bloocrab]

Sad news for sure.....positive thoughts to you, Peg and her family during this most difficult chapter