My state of mind these days...

[redlite]

Originally Posted by redlite

I'm younger than u old farts and agree and can relate with most of it. Me and my three siblings were so dumb we actually made a 2 foot spanking stick complete with hanging cord with perfectly sanded edges for her not to beat us with, but to disciple us with out hurting her hand. Then we made
Her. 3 ft version for the car so she could turn around and wack us without stopping the car. Dad's hands like tough baseball gloves so he didn't need.
We have been raising our 12 yr old
Nephew for Past 8 years
As legal guardians in addition
To our 3. Behavior was getting out of control and would always say we can't touch him or he call police. Well he refused to go to school and took off on his bike. We called police and after dark they picked him up down other end of town. police officer stood here in our driveway and explained to him that we certainly could slap/ spank/ discipline him. In fact with the way he was acting and talking to all of us we were more than legally Justified to slap him right in front of police officer and there was nothing he would or could do. Officer explained to him how it was for him and that he should be grateful for us raising him instead of what his situation would and could be.
He has sang a different tune since.
Gonna sit down down with my 9 yr old right now and order him a new high quality pocket knife with his own money that he has earned comin to work with me for the past few weekends on all kinds of different jobs. He has learned new skills and quickly understood the value of hard earned money already.
Raise em right
Hoorah
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[Clammer]

LOL >>>>>>>>>>>>> not all the nuns & priests ......... had the 100% effect they wanted ........by seeing some of the posts which are considered $%^&**()

#* << % an still made out alive

[JohnR]

Grew up in a mediocrely rough neighborhood, divorced/single mom with 4 kids, projects, and was on track to, while not be be bad, surely not be good.

But I also did Scouts (hell, some of my troop were my 12 year old drinking buddies). Had paper routes, side jobs for cash stocking the local variety/liquor store. But I was still kind and polite, just not making great choices.

I was good to eff off, and basically move in with my father, where I needed the discipline, and lucked out as he was transferred to Germany and I went to school on the base. The DODDS school was almost like a private school, or at least equivalent to a very good school system in a very good town. But it had two things going for it, a top level education, and on balance great parents.

So it can be done, in good towns, with good schools. If your kids are young, find a way to move to those good towns.

I am proud of the kid my wife and I raised, but we also got a good dice roll, in addition to hard work at parenting.

Originally Posted by redlite

I'm younger than u old farts and agree and can relate with most of it. Me and my three siblings were so dumb we actually made a 2 foot spanking stick complete with hanging cord with perfectly sanded edges for her not to beat us with, but to disciple us with out hurting her hand. Then we made
Her. 3 ft version for the car so she could turn around and wack us without stopping the car. Dad's hands like tough baseball gloves so he didn't need.
We have been raising our 12 yr old
Nephew for Past 8 years
As legal guardians in addition
To our 3. Behavior was getting out of control and would always say we can't touch him or he call police. Well he refused to go to school and took off on his bike. We called police and after dark they picked him up down other end of town. police officer stood here in our driveway and explained to him that we certainly could slap/ spank/ discipline him. In fact with the way he was acting and talking to all of us we were more than legally Justified to slap him right in front of police officer and there was nothing he would or could do. Officer explained to him how it was for him and that he should be grateful for us raising him instead of what his situation would and could be.
He has sang a different tune since. Raise em right
Hoorah
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[redlite]

Originally Posted by JohnR

Grew up in a mediocrely rough neighborhood, divorced/single mom with 4 kids, projects, and was on track to, while not be be bad, surely not be good.

But I also did Scouts (hell, some of my troop were my 12 year old drinking buddies). Had paper routes, side jobs for cash stocking the local variety/liquor store. But I was still kind and polite, just not making great choices.

I was good to eff off, and basically move in with my father, where I needed the discipline, and lucked out as he was transferred to Germany and I went to school on the base. The DODDS school was almost like a private school, or at least equivalent to a very good school system in a very good town. But it had two things going for it, a top level education, and on balance great parents.

So it can be done, in good towns, with good schools. If your kids are young, find a way to move to those good towns.

I am proud of the kid my wife and I raised, but we also got a good dice roll, in addition to hard work at parenting.

Don't laugh but I look exactly like that little green emoji thing with the missing tooth. True red necker. What happens in Maine stays in Maine
Been a rough and tough 12 months around here.....still tickin tho
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[Rmarsh]

Originally Posted by redlite

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Years from now.... when he becomes an adult, your nephew will realize what you and your wife are doing for him now and you will be rewarded.
Kids dont forget the love and attention you show them..and the payback is that they will cherish you forever.

[Got Stripers]

Originally Posted by redlite

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I can relate, my middle son was a nightmare, refusing to go to school, getting into booze and pot with a bad group of friends, totaling the family van one day at 15 and lucky to survive with just a dislocated hip and lesser injures. They next druken rage against his father after he kicked in a brand new vinyl fence, with him getting physical, I put him on his arse. He storms inside punching holes in multiple walls, brothers call cops as I dealt with his band of friends outside, nothing like having your son taken away in cuffs and then having to get interviewed by social services because I punched him. Thankfully an extended stay in lockup set him straight and he is now a Boston medic, but unfortunately the disrespectful behavior directed at dad continues as he has yet to shed the victim card he plays each and every time I call him out for BS and inappropriate behavior.

[fishgolf]

Thank you Piemma. Will enjoy researching.

[RickBomba]

My brother and I are both products of a Catholic private school system. Look how we turned out!

Sheesh!

[Rmarsh]

Originally Posted by RickBomba

My brother and I are both products of a Catholic private school system. Look how we turned out!

Sheesh!

To every rule.....there are exeptions

[piemma]

Originally Posted by fishgolf

Thank you Piemma. Will enjoy researching.

Check out the Battle of St. Lo and the Battle for Cherbourg.

[fishgolf]

Will do.