A Prayer For Terry Schiavo - Striper Talk Striped Bass Fishing, Surfcasting, Boating

PaulS · 03-31-2005, 12:41 PM

I guess you'd rather have had her euthanised? What's insane to me is that there are people who evidentially can't make a decision and would rather have the courts decide than leave it up to her husband to fufill her wishes. Her wishes were finally carried out - 7 years or so after her husband finally realized there was no hope for a recovery for her. He prob. should have done it sooner.

RIJIMMY · 03-31-2005, 01:01 PM

Paul, there was no indecision on Terri, her husband wanted her to die, her parents to live. The courts were involved to decide on who legally has the right to make the decision to end her life.
As far as the years it took to resolve this in court, put it in perspective. Scott Petersen will be in jail a minimun of 17 years before all appeals are exhausted. Taxpayers will spend tons of $ for court fees and living expenses for him. Is it wrong that that the decision to end an innocent life took so long? I'm glad I love in country that human life is valued enough to cause debate and attention from our legal system
This case raised a lot of questions, Im not sure where I stand on this.
Her husband was banging away at another woman while Terri's parents visited her everyday. Makes me not feel too much for the husband and side with the parents.
I've heard that Terri's mind is the equivalent of a 6 months old...is that such a bad thing? Was she happy? We'll never know. Sad story no matter what your views are.

piemma · 03-31-2005, 01:06 PM

There are no winners in this case. Terri lost 15 years ago. Her parents lost today. Her husband, I am not in a position to judge him. I have not been in his position and I hope to God I never am forced to make that decision for my wife.
Me, I just want a massive heart attack with a 50 on the end of my line.

PaulS · 03-31-2005, 01:16 PM

Her husband spent approx. 15 years carring for her and trying to carry out her wishes. While all of us would prob. like to believe we would remain faithfull to our spouses after 7 years of remaining faithfull to her, he finally, somewhat moved on (I guess "banging away at some woman" is one way of looking at it). The courts have found that the husband had legal standing to carry out her wishes (the bible also). What didn't the parents understand about that? After 3-4 times in front of a judge, you'd think they would understand. I read that the parents have a website which appeals for donations, the rift b/w the parents and the husband supposedly started around the time he recieved the insurance settlement and when the parents asked for a share of it.

RIJIMMY · 03-31-2005, 01:47 PM

The insurance settlement was suppposed to be used to keep her alive, he went back to court to be able to use the funds to fight to remove the tube.
From my understanding, there was no financial gain for teh parents in keeping their daughter alive.
as far as them "not understanding "the courts, good for them for contuning to fight for what they beleive in, thats the foundation of this country.

PaulS · 03-31-2005, 02:04 PM

What was the source of the money to pay for her care all of these years - the insurance settlement. The husband used that money to also pay the lawyers to get her wishes carried out.

If I have to go, I'll take a stroke. A good lesson for everyone to have their wishes in writing.

Skip N · 03-31-2005, 02:07 PM

The husband didn't allow the parents to be with Terry during her last few minutes alive. Need we say anything else about this guy? I can't imagine what her parents were going through watching there daughter starve to death the last two weeks. Not aloud to give thier daugher water without feer of going to jail. Thats what really gets me the most. If ALL the family agreed that Terry wanted to die if put into this positon and that was her wish that is one thing. But in this case you have only one person saying this is what she wanted with NO possitive evedince to support it. I dont know how the hell the courts could rule in the husbands favor with NO evidince.

fishweewee · 03-31-2005, 02:12 PM

I heard on the radio that when nutrients are withheld, it's actually a pretty peaceful death. You go into a deep sleep and then ... you go.

Well, I'm alive, and as tacky as this sounds, I'm going out to grab a bite to eat and something to

.

I hope Terry is in a better place.

The Dad Fisherman · 03-31-2005, 02:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Skip N

The husband didn't allow the parents to be with Terry during her last few minutes alive. Need we say anything else about this guy? I can't imagine what her parents were going through watching there daughter starve to death the last two weeks. Not aloud to give thier daugher water without feer of going to jail. Thats what really gets me the most. If ALL the family agreed that Terry wanted to die if put into this positon and that was her wish that is one thing. But in this case you have only one person saying this is what she wanted with NO possitive evedince to support it. I dont know how the hell the courts could rule in the husbands favor with NO evidince.

Why does there always have to be blame attached to a tragedy. There are no winners in this situation. and there's no one to blame.

The Schindlers lost their Child
Michael Schiavo lost his wife and Best friend
Terri Schiavo lost her life

What happened was a sad tragedy and I can't see how anybody can pass judgement on anybody involved in this. Whats that old quote "Never judge a man unless you've walked a mile in his shoes"

The parents were trying to help there child, which is what they are supposed to do. the Husband was trying to do what he thought his wife wanted him to do. This wasn't some criminal case where you needed evidence to convict, it was a family tragedy that opened up a lot of thought provoking questions and some deep soul searching. I feel for everybody involved. I just hope I am never put into that situation, either as a parent or a spouse, because you just can't win.

and why is it so hard to believe that she didn't want to live like that. Every person I've talked to recently about this pretty much ended the conversation w/ the same phrase, "All I know if I'm ever like that just pull the Friggin Plug" Myself included. So its not to much of leap of faith to think that maybe she did want this.

PaulS · 03-31-2005, 03:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Skip N

The husband didn't allow the parents to be with Terry during her last few minutes alive. Need we say anything else about this guy?

Since it was agreed he was her guaridian by the courts, I believe that he could have prevented them from EVER seeing her. Instead he allowed visits. The parents allowed him to be be called a murderer, etc. After all he went through maybe he wanted to be with her the last few minutes of her life. I don't think I heard very much from the husband (mostly I think a brother of his) when it would have been easy to lower himself to others level.

I have heard the parents have a web site for donations and we all know that they released video tape of her in a vegatative state - Need we say anything else about her parents?