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BigFish · 10-14-2006, 06:25 AM

When I met Angie, my fiance', I had been fishing pretty hard for about 2 years and was a full blown addict. I had been through a divorce already and learned 1 important thing from it......that life is short and if you cannot enjoy the things that you are passionate about and the person you are with cannot be supportive of that.....then they are not the one for you. That is not to say that you just go fishing and say to your wife/girlfriend..."screw you I am going whether you like it or not"! As others have said it is give and take. I told Angie one thing when I met her...."I Fish"! "I fish alot and when I want and when it gets to a point where my going fishing is not fun anymore because she is making me miserable about going.....one or the other will be gone and it will never be fishing"! That is a true story and Angie has been wonderful about supporting me in what I love to do. She had never fished a day in her life before she met me and she now loves fishing for anything....she has a 10 pound largemouth to her credit, a 21 pound striper from the surf on a pencil popper that she won Womens Top Surf Division honors with in our fishing club, she has fished at night a few times and yes...even slung eels a few times.....she really enjoys going fishing when ever she can. Try to get your wife/girlfriend involved and if that does not happen then as others have said....it is a give and take. I have been fishing my butt off lately (and all season) and the week after next I am taking Angie away to New Hampshire to a nice Inn that is five stars and the trip is all about her.....fancy dinners and shopping and just basically making her feel good and special....which she is! We do this trip spring and fall and I always spoil Angie rotten and make her feel special and that she matters and that I am supportive of her in what her interests are. We will only be gone 3 nights (good fishing nights by the way) but I will be fishing my a$$ off all this week and when we get back!!!

Bottom line is...you are dead a long time! You must enjoy life to the fullest while you can! Try to make compromises when ever possible but if that does not work and you can't find equal ground.....find yourself a "Fishchick" like mine!!

Backbeach Jake · 10-14-2006, 07:17 AM

My wife's father,brother and uncle are or were fishermen. Hard core. She understands....

Fishpart · 10-14-2006, 07:21 AM

God Bless You....

I make plans based on her plans and then end up in the dog house because she changed her plans. I have one small and two mediums, so the mediums go with me now when they can. I'm bad at putting myself last, so there isn't much time to fish.

Try to hit a middle somewhere, but chances are if you post here fish control your brain....

Clammer · 10-14-2006, 08:23 AM

L-48

ya keep fishing hard /& she,ll find her own hobby & it won,t be with your [rod]

tattoobob · 10-14-2006, 08:52 AM

Here's a thought, if you ask her to marry you, you will have all the time you need she will be so busy planning the wedding she even know your not there.

Backbeach Jake · 10-14-2006, 09:09 AM

Geeze, Bob, the money for a wedding would buy a heck of a lot of gear! JustKidding, relationships aren't easy.

luds · 10-14-2006, 09:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Clammer

L-48

ya keep fishing hard /& she,ll find her own hobby & it won,t be with your [rod]

nice one.

maddog2020 · 10-14-2006, 10:38 PM

I bet ya GF stops fishing w/ you after you get married, Mike/luds48.

My wife us to fish w/ me a little, but hardly ever wants to go - especially late at nite.

Now my older sister use to do all kinds of sports & fish w/ her boyfriend and after they got married she stopped doing all those things. It is a pattern!

Your GF needs to understand that it is your way of relaxing/meditation and that she had to accept it. If she can't then you have to decide what is more important.

My wife knew upfront that I liked to do a lot of outdoor activities before we were married and never gave me gried about going out. She had her own hobbies as well.

Now over time (more aging of body) I don't do a lot of things now just because I kind of grew out of them. When we were married w/out a child it was a lot easier to skip having dinner together so I could go play tennis, hunt or fish. Once you have kids it chances everything! Kids require a lot of your time whether you like it or not.

Now a days, I rather get some sleep than pound the sand. Sometimes I just don't get motived to go out on my own - at least if I am heading out with some one else then I know I will go out and not sleep in.

Life = it is ALL about balance!

ThrowingTimber · 10-15-2006, 01:06 PM

I'm at or very close to being 200 + nights a year:

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Skip N · 10-15-2006, 05:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Clammer

L-48

ya keep fishing hard /& she,ll find her own hobby & it won,t be with your [rod]

tattoobob · 10-15-2006, 06:48 PM

I brought my wife home a sand dollar today so I am good to the end of the season.

Nebe · 10-16-2006, 10:03 AM

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Originally Posted by BigFish

life is short and if you cannot enjoy the things that you are passionate about and the person you are with cannot be supportive of that.....then they are not the one for you.

bingo.