Prayers for Mom

[Hooper]

Guys, I really want you to all know how much it means that you have taken a minute to read my post and drop me a few kind words. I felt funny doing it, but sometimes when you let people know what is going on in your life you are amazed with the responses as I have been. I guess that is why S-B.Com is at the top of my favorites list!

Mom's service is on Wednesday night and I really want to express what she has meant to me at that time, trouble being, I don't know if I can hold it together as I verbalize that feeling. Have any of you been through this and how did you manage to speak so personally when your emotions were so strong?

[JohnR]

Originally Posted by Hooper

Mom's service is on Wednesday night and I really want to express what she has meant to me at that time, trouble being, I don't know if I can hold it together as I verbalize that feeling. Have any of you been through this and how did you manage to speak so personally when your emotions were so strong?

I debated if I wanted to speak at my Dad's funeral and was asked to do so. I tortured myself a little on whether I should and what to say. I thought and thought and thought and then decided I would day something light and meaningful. When my time came to say what I wanted to say I did so with great difficulty and somehow, for the most part, managed to get through it though I broke down several times. My Uncle, ever the wise man of the family, managed not to struggle outwardly as he spoke.

Do what you have to do and don't worry about it. Your friends and family will support you AS/IF you struggle and they will support you if you don't. Do what YOU need to do, sounds like she would be proud either way.

[Backbeach Jake]

Very sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts, prayers and heart go out to you and yours.

[teaser]

Originally Posted by Hooper

Have any of you been through this and how did you manage to speak so personally when your emotions were so strong?

I have and still am. Not a day goes by that I don't say hello to my mom, I miss her still but I try to remember the good things about her and how strong she was after all she was the one who had to deal with all the bad health issues and pain everyday, alone.

I like you was there at the end, I got to hold my mom's hand and say "I love you" before she took that final breath, and I now believe what I was told that when you hear a persons death rattle that it is something you'll never forget.

But I take everyday to thank God now, because I know now that even though I miss her so much that she is not hurting anymore and that is everything to me and I know she will still check in on me from time to time. I live with the memory of the love that she gave so willingly everyday, not the pain of how much I miss her and how much I wish she was still here.

It will hurt for a long time my friend but the pain will ease a little everyday and if you live you're life to it's fullest the way she had meant you to and think of her only with the best of thoughts then she will be proud of you and there's nothing stronger than a mothers pride.

My heart goes out to you and you're family because of you're loss, but know we are all connected in life and death ... we are all family.

God Bless

[Raven]

Originally Posted by Hooper

Mom's service is on Wednesday night and I really want to express what she has meant to me at that time, trouble being, I don't know if I can hold it together as I verbalize that feeling. Have any of you been through this and how did you manage to speak so personally when your emotions were so strong?

yeah hooper, you just have to remember to breathe!
and write down what your going to say in simple sentences
on an index card........
so your able to say it before the choking up sets in....
as it will... and there's no shame in that.

[BW from AZ]

(Have any of you been through this and how did you manage to speak so personally when your emotions were so strong?)

When you have memories in your heart they live forever. I/We do things their way with a smile. Also, remember the song pennies from heaven? Our personal game is a penny tails up is grampa giving you the ok in that task. To tight to toss more and never lucky. Gramma is still a penny but she would place it heads up for you to find. Mom was a big spender, quarters are her helping you. We have some one for all change. It's strange finding a penny out in the open on your return trip when you could swear it wasn't there five minutes ago.

[MAC]

Sorry for your loss. Heartfelt condolences from my wife and I.