Generation "Smug"

[justplugit]

Originally Posted by The Dad Fisherman

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Professor Jean Twenge, head of psychology at San Diego University and lead author of the report, said: 'Boomer parents are more likely than any group of parents before them to praise children - and maybe overpraise them.

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The problem is the overpraise.

Praise is good if it's the truth. It builds confidence.

Kids know when they have done a good job and also know when they haven't and are being patronized by their parents.

There are two good books, Between Parent and Child, and Between Parent and Teenager by Ginop that deal with the use of reasonable honest praise to build up a kids confidence.

Imo, honest and truthful praise is good and sure beats the scars left by comments like, " your dumb" "your no good" or "you'll never amount to anything."

[Raven]

the scars from abusive comments are real....and are difficult to erase or modify.

they sit on the side of the minds eye of one's view or perception of one's self....

praise is the true motivation for doing a good job
but it shouldn't be over done....

like if you pay a kid $500.00 bucks to rake your leaves
it'll leave him with a warped sense of what things are worth.

[spence]

This certainly explains a lot about RIJIMMY.

-spence