Advice Needed...

[OLD GOAT]

With my mother all of a sudden the car wouldn't start. And that was that.
I think she was ninety two

[spinncognito]

I wish this were as simple as taking the car or keys away but it is not. He is not experiencing full-blown dementia, just starting to show the signs- it could be as simple as his blood-sugars being off casuing the confusion. Regardless, he is refusing to cooperate and whoever drops a dime on him to the police or doctors will never be forgiven.

My thought at this point is to make sure the local police are aware that he is driving and let them be the bad guys.
Very difficult situtation indeed. Thanks again for sharing your thoughts and experiences.

[vineyardblues]

ALl very very sad ,
Another quick story
A verly close friend pulled in front of a Tractor Trailer and got hit so bad it totaled the car,The driver was fine and was so upset she just keep driving away with the car wiped out until she got to her garage

We also had to install a cement piller in her garage so she did hit the the oil tank ...it was a tuff few years and I still miss her ><>---

[nightfighter]

Wake-Up Call for Elderly Drivers | Video - ABC News

I hope maybe this story will help. He surely doesn't want to hurt, maim, or kill others....

[Raven]

good video and example

of the confusion or tunnel vision syndrome

some mental deficiencies take as many as 30+ years
to manifest themselves and "some" ARE reversible.

[jimmy z]

I had a similar situation with my dad before he passed last year. When with dad, I would never let him drive and was always nervous when i know he was. Because I saw new scrapes and small dents whenever I visited him. He had major foot surgery, which let him with half a foot on each leg, but still refused to give up driving. Declining health put him in a wheelchair, but he still refused to give up driving. We were at a point, where we were ready to pull the plug on this driving he did, but his health took a turn for the worst and he just couldn't any longer. I was relieved but yet saddened. Because I know my dad, who was so active all his life was near the end.
It's a difficult situation to be in and I wish you and your family the best in dealing with dad. God be with you, for He will show you the right way!

[spinncognito]

Thanx jimmy and my condolences for the loss of your dad. The issues we all face with our aging parents are no doubt some of the most difficult situations to manage in life. There is no instant switch to flip between independence and dependence and with my Dad, his decline has been gradual and his age still relatively low at 74.

Ross, thanx for the link- I would love to play it for the old man but he would just continue to deny that a problem exists. Gonna take someone from outside the family (Doc/Cop) to force the desired outcome.