ladies!

[Saltheart]

Set one night as "your night to go fishing" each week. That's 1. then be flexible and when there appears to be nothing on the homefront or she has something planned , ask her about going. that's 2 nights a week. then just sneak out one day per week. that's 3 days a week , only one of which she should be pissed about and that's a 67% improvement. What the heck , 67% improvement should please any reasonable woman.

[The Dad Fisherman]

Originally Posted by Saltheart

any reasonable woman.

There in lies the problem.....That's an Oxymoron if ever I heard one.

[Swimmer]

Hey #^&#^&#^&#^&#^&#^&, ask Leslie if she would consent to her genes being cloned? It to late for me and most of the guys here, but if we could have more Leslies for the next generation that would be cool.

[luds]

I've negotiated clearance for 3 nights each week. 2 week nights and one weekend. She also understands if there seem to be big fish around in good numbers that I might get out another night or two. The reverse is true too. If she's got stuff she wants to do then I may have to sacrifice some nights.

[Flaptail]

I set one day each weekend to spend with her, regardless of how good the fishing is. If the calls are coming in fast and thick with reports that indicate it's better than usual she relents and let's me go.

Like Capesams, I go after she is tucked away for the night. I always said the best thing about being a striper fishinerman is that most often it's better in the wee hours of darkness. So it works.

She understands, to a point, my addiction. Marriage is a two way street. If it's all one way, for one or the other, it's doomed. Some guys I know do get thier way more than their spouse but those women are weak in my eyes and though they are my friends, I sometimes feel they have a childish attitude and really don't appreciate how good a mate they have. Some women have the old world attitude towards their man which translates into them keeping their mouth shut and getting walked all over. I could not live with a women who does not and will not speak her mind when she wants to for fear it will upset the balance ( or lack of in most cases) in the home. That is stupid way to live.

I actually enjoy doing things with my wife except the mall gig and waiting while she shops but she knows this and would rather go alone anyways as she feels I am getting impatient most times.

Sometimes I over do it and get called in on the carpet and wish I copuld fish all the time like some of the supposed heavy hitters. But if you look deeply into it most of those guys live lonely lives and have taken to drugs or alcohol to make up for the times when they are off the boat or beach and there is no one to care for you or for you to care for, no calls to make sure your alright if a little late or come home to a warm house.

My wife doesn't fish. Has no interest in it. That's okay because I need time with my friends and she understands that. She knows where I am and what I am doing and knows it's better than a lot of other options. On our Honeymoon we came to the Cape for three weeks, during the middle of the second week I left her at the rented cottage and hit the beach overnight. When I arrived back the morning she was there cooking breakfast for me, I knew she was a keeper then.

[luds]

[QUOTE=Flaptail;424865] I could not live with a women who does not and will not speak her mind when she wants to for fear it will upset the balance ( or lack of in most cases) in the home. [QUOTE]

I couldn't agree more with that comment. I was hoping I would get some creative ideas out of this thread but it's really just confirmed that I need to do a better job of focusing on making her happy. She pretty supportive as it is.

I'm starting to realize that buying her something rather another 5 or so plugs can go a long way. Only child habits are difficult to break.

[nightfighter]

Originally Posted by luds48

I'm starting to realize that buying her something rather another 5 or so plugs can go a long way.

Exactly, so I see a lathe and an airbrush under her Christmas tree?!?!?

[Joe]

It's only a question if your're prepared to entertain all options. My experience has been that people see the writing on the wall and go forward anyway. Her lack of support of your fishing is only going to get worse.

I'm happily married but I would not get married again. I'm not too fond of having to tell someone where I'm going and what I'm doing.

People who gravitate toward surfcasting tend to be loners who don't find their relationships as rewarding as normal people do. There's a little bit of the serial killer in every good fisherman.

[Canalman]

Originally Posted by Joe

It's only a question if your're prepared to entertain all options. My experience has been that people see the writing on the wall and go forward anyway. Her lack of support of your fishing is only going to get worse.

I'm happily married but I would not get married again. I'm not too fond of having to tell someone where I'm going and what I'm doing.

People who gravitate toward surfcasting tend to be loners who don't find their relationships as rewarding as normal people do. There's a little bit of the serial killer in every good fisherman.

YIKES! That was uplifting.. sounds like a marital problem not a fishing problem

[fishpoopoo]

Originally Posted by Joe

People who gravitate toward surfcasting tend to be loners who don't find their relationships as rewarding as normal people do. There's a little bit of the serial killer in every good fisherman.

[JohnR]

Originally Posted by Joe

People who gravitate toward surfcasting tend to be loners who don't find their relationships as rewarding as normal people do.

How about that some people go through the motions of life and too few are fortunate to find that holy grail of inner peace and satisfaction that good old fashioned surfcasting can bring Many people find that wonderful thing that as an individual touches our soul. I find fishing to do that, being on the water, and good commaraderie - they all bring that inner peace. Fishing can compliment the peace and joy that a good relationship brings.

Besides - it's far better than being in the bars

There's a little bit of the serial killer in every good fisherman.

That's classic

BTW - Nice post Les