Daughter of Habs' Bob Gainey Swept off ship - Striper Talk Striped Bass Fishing, Surfcasting, Boating

PaulS · 12-12-2006, 08:55 AM

So Gainey attended a hockey game after hearing that his daughter was washed overboard in the middle of the Atlantic???

likwid · 12-12-2006, 11:20 AM

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So Gainey attended a hockey game after hearing that his daughter was washed overboard in the middle of the Atlantic???

What did you want him to do?
Sit at home and sob?

PaulS · 12-12-2006, 12:28 PM

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Originally Posted by likwid

What did you want him to do?
Sit at home and sob?

That would be nice - would you have went to the game?

likwid · 12-12-2006, 01:53 PM

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That would be nice - would you have went to the game?

Considering it was while the search was still on, I would have found anything to get out and not sit at home steaming and fuming.

I've been in situations where people in my family have been almost lost offshore, and it sucks, but it doesn't mean I'm going to sit at home by the phone waiting for bad news.

MarshCappa · 12-12-2006, 02:40 PM

When a person who has been with an organization as long as him, that is his family and his support group. He obviously has a big support group and large extended family in Montreal so I don't critisize him one bit for going to the game. I'm sure he was at the game physically but mentally he was with his daughter. It his way of copping and my heart goes out to him and his family.

PaulS · 12-12-2006, 03:04 PM

I would say that both of your responses are not what the majority of the population would do. Your support group would expect you to be with the rest of your family or with the authorities doing the searching - asking them what they are doing,etc rather than going on with your life as if nothing happened. This was not 7 days after she disappeared, but rather the same night he was told.

I'd be home sobbing.

likwid · 12-12-2006, 03:24 PM

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or with the authorities doing the searching

You, him, anyone else other than the CG, or other professional search groups would get in the way. Period.

SAR work is NOT done with family, not even if they're trained. Emotions get in the way.

And anyhow, this was not some kid lost in the woods.
She might as well have been on the moon.

You can't just sit around and waste away. It does nobody any good.